Now there is a resource just for you! The New York State Office of ADR Programs (http://www.courts.state.ny.us/ip/adr) has created a Mediator Ethics Advisory Committee for the purpose of fielding questions from community mediators about ethical issues they are facing.
How to get your question answered? Just send requests by email to: firstname.lastname@example.org or send them in writing to: 25 Beaver Street, 8th Fl., NY NY 10004. Please note that all identifying information is removed from the questions when the committee publishes its response.
Take advantage of this create new resource!