So, why think about mediation on a day about romance and love?
On Valentine's Day, individuals around the country, perhaps even the world, seek to find and celebrate love, most often by saying sweet nothings, giving gifts and showing intense intention on the person of their affection. (One exception might be in Japan where there are separate holidays for men and women, see White Day). During this focus on love, we tend to get all hyped up in "The Relationship," and The Romance. (For those who are single, we might talk about hopes and dreams for them and seek kinship with other singles or family and friends). Valentine's Day has become a day when we want to know that we are loved. Many of the signs of love are those the world can see or that they can hear about in a story. The high expectations can result in estacy or despair.
Again, the question, why talk about mediation on Valentine's day? Dina Beach Lynch suggest that mediators might be "love coaches" I know that the skills of mediation have helped me in my personal relationship to create space and structure for conflict and difference. Why then, not offer this to the relationships of our clients - a purpose driven mediation, seeking to assist individuals in a relationship to engage in constructive dialogue about issues of concern. Laurie Isreal also suggests that mediation can help people stay married. A provocative idea.
Why not consider mediation then on this day of love and how it can enhace our relationships?
Happy Valentines Day.