Tuesday, October 02, 2012

Nancy & Sid give advice about conflict

[Landlord/Tenant Issues]
Dear Nancy and Sid,
I’m a wreck as a result of some of the battles I’ve been having with my landlord. He’s threatening to evict me for not paying the rent but he hasn’t fixed my plumbing. What can I do? Go to court?—Joanne

Dear Joanne,
Have you tried conflict resolution? Rather than go to court, you could both work with a neutral person trained to help you work together to find a solution acceptable for you both. Learn more about NYCID’s conflict resolution program here.

[Special Education Plans]
Dear Nancy and Sid,
My child’s school and I disagree about her special education plan. It’s not helping anyone, especially my child. This is her future. I can’t give up. – John

Dear John,
The best plans are those you and the school work on together. Less stressful than an impartial hearing  a federally mandated mediation session can provide the flexibility and support of a trained neutral party to devise a plan in the best interest of your child. Want to know more? Give us a call at 718-815-4557 or read more about how this works.

[Lemon Law Negotiations]
Dear Nancy and Sid,
The car I bought is a lemon and the dealer could care less. I’m just getting the run-around. Can you help?  My friend Mike told me you helped him. – Elaine

Dear Elaine,
The Lemon Law is just one of several kinds of conflicts everyday people like you can get help with at the SI Community Dispute Resolution Center. Our staff deals with court cases, family issues, neighborhood  arguments, workplace and other issues that cause anger and frustration.

You can read more about the Lemon Law and many other types of mediation here.

Kids Need to Know Their Parents, But Safety First

[Supervised Visitation]

Dear Nancy and Sid,
I’ve had some problems in the past and my kids’ other parent fears I’ll hurt them. The judge wants someone to supervise me while she decides what to do. I need to see my kids. -- Michael

Dear Nancy and Sid,
I’m so afraid their other parent is going to hurt my kids, how will the judge know whether the children will be safe? – The ‘good’ parent

Dear parents,
Sometimes an Integrated Domestic Violence or Family Court judge will want a program where a trained supervisor can ensure the child is safe and he can get a report on the interaction between the non-custodial parent and the children. There’s such a supervised program a judge may require a parent to attend at NYCID.

Dear Nancy and Sid,
I’ve just discovered that an old girlfriend had a baby and the paternity testing proves it’s mine. I’m prepared to be a father, but I’ve never met the child and the mother doesn’t trust me. How can I get to know my child in a place that the mother will feel is safe? –An unexpected father

Dear unexpected father,
Sometimes parents feel more secure when someone can supervise them when they’re establishing or re-establishing a relationship with their children. You may want to talk to a social worker about whether this program would be helpful to you.

You can read more about Supervised Visitation here.
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As a parent I'm trying to keep lots of balls in the air

[parenting issues - scroll down to read the letters and responses]


[NYCID's after school programs]

Dear Nancy and Sid,
Being a parent isn’t easy these days. I need a place where my kids will have a good time after school and get help with their homework. Any suggestions? – A working parent

Dear Working Parent,
You can look at several possibilities depending on their age, location, and resources. If they are in elementary school, try  one of these programs: 


If you have a high school student who can benefit from an after school program consider the NYCID Advantage programs:


[Parenting Workshops]

Dear Nancy and Sid,
My spouse and I are separating and the judge says we each have to attend a parenting workshop at the NY Center. Is this going to be a waste of my time? What does he think I can learn? – Annoyed Parent

Dear Annoyed,
Here’s what judges have learned and why they may require you to attend an ACT Assisting Children Through Transition  parenting class. 

One participant’s child told him, I can see a big difference. They can talk to each other now without yelling. That helps a lot. My stomach doesn’t hurt as much and I can concentrate better in school”and here’s what a parent said, This program changed our lives. It gave us all a new direction…one of hope and healing. I see too many people oozing with anger…I don’t want to go there anymore.” This judge knows that every parent going through a separation needs to focus on how to help their kids cope. 

Believe us, it won’t be a waste of your time. Read more about this ACT workshop here.

Dear Nancy and Sid,
I never thought my teenager would be so difficult to deal with. Home is getting to be a warzone. It’s a problem for us all, and he used to be such a nice little kid. Now he just doesn’t listen to us. What can we do? – Miserable Mama


[raising adolescents]

Dear Miserable Mama,
Adolescents everywhere battle with their parents, but you and your family can learn to “fight better” through our family mediation program. Check it out. Everyone wins.

[custody and visitation plans]

Dear Nancy and Sid,
My kids’ other parent and I are fighting over custody and visits, but I don’t want some judge deciding what we have to do. Is there another way? – Robert

Dear Robert,
You and your co-parent will be raising your children for many years, so you’re wise to want to solve these issues together yourself.

NYCID’s conflict resolution staff can help you work together to develop a custody and visitation plan that works for you both and learn how to renegotiate that plan as life changes. You can bring your agreed upon plan to the judge.

Give us a call at 718-815-4557 to learn about developing your own joint plan that you can bring to the judge. 

Read more about getting help to work out the best parenting plans on the conflict resolution page.

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Learn to Mediate


[training workshops]

Dear Nancy and Sid,
I’d like to learn how to help people resolve their conflicts and disputes and I think it would be great to try out mediation as a new job or career. Can I volunteer in order to get some experience? – Glenn

Dear Nancy and Sid,
I’d like to expand my practice into custody, visitation, and divorce mediation. Do you offer that training? – Kathryn

Dear Glenn and Kathryn,

Yes, you can take courses to master conflict resolution skills, concepts and strategies through the NY Center’s Training Institute. Here’s some feedback from our participants:

     "There are many walking time-bombs in both my career and my neighborhood.  If this 4 day session helps me de-fuse even one, it was well worth the time and price"
     "I would highly recommend this training for any attorney ~ whether you are interested in mediation or not.  The communication skills will make me a more effective fact gatherer from my clients, a more effective negotiator with my adversaries and a more effective advocate before tribunals of every kind.  For the practitioner ~ either as mediator or advocate ~ this training is indispensable.”

We offer professional and customized workshops. All are interactive and experiential. And, the feedback from our participants has been outstanding. To learn more about our mediation workshops click here.
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This High School Is Not for Me


[avoiding high school]

Dear Nancy and Sid,
I can’t stand this high school so I’m always skipping school or class, failing subjects, getting into trouble, or getting bullied by other kids.  Don’t tell anyone I asked, but what else can I do?  -- Anthony

Dear Nancy and Sid,
How can we get this kid to go to school? Nothing seems to work. – We Care

Dear Nancy and Sid,
I can’t get up to go to school in the morning. Maybe I should go to night school or just quit. -- Charlie

Dear Nancy and Sid,
Unless these freshmen can overcome their poor attendance in middle school they’re probably going to have a tough time in high school. The truancy road leads to academic failure and dropping out. What kind of help can you provide?  -- Worried Parents and Teachers

Dear Anthony, Charlie, “We Care,” and “Worried Parents and Teachers”
There are plenty of reasons kids don’t feel they want to go to school. You need to find the program that’s going to work for you or the kids you’re worried about. Some of the programs you can consider include:

  YABC: Staten Island Young Adult Borough Center
 Olympus Academy
 GPS at Port Richmond High School 
Truancy prevention planning at the CDRC: Community Dispute Resolution Center

Read about each of these programs, then give our staff a call at 718-815-4557.
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Need Help Getting a Diploma?

[earn a diploma and a job]

It's hard to got a diploma or a job when you have a checkered background. The NY Center offers some alternatives that may provide all of you some choices. Maybe one of them is just the program for you.

Dear Nancy and Sid,
No one wants to hire me without a high school diploma or GED and I haven’t got one. I’m almost 20 and can’t read. Well, I may be able to read some, but I haven’t got a diploma or a job. I don’t know what to do with my life. Help. – Joe

Dear Nancy and Sid,
I haven’t kept the job or two I was able to get. They were boring and paid nothing. Someday I’d like to go to college or join the military. -- Annie

Dear Nancy and Sid,
I’m still pretty young and no one wants to give me a chance at something. How can I try out a job, get a good recommendation and maybe even get paid while I do it? – Jamal

Dear Nancy and Sid,
I dropped out of school (am thinking about dropping out). It’s tough to finish when I’ve got a ton of problems­ -- Sometimes with my family, no place to live, no money, druggy friends, stuff like that.  Is there any place I can get some help? -- Mary

Dear Joe, Annie, Mary and Jamal,

You’ll feel much more confident and people will be more inclined to give you a chance if…
  • ·         You learn to read and master the other things you need to get a diploma
  • ·         Work with a case manager to handle the problems that are screwing you up
  • ·         Learn about how to prepare for a job
  • ·         Do an internship or two

Here are some places where NYCID can help: 
  •  ACE in St. George has a variety of programs for young adults from 16-24 without a diploma or job. Learn more here.
  • YABC in Tottenville can help students, 17 1/2 -2,1 who have at least 17 credits earn a diploma from their home school. It’s an evening program. Check it out and talk with us or your school guidance counselor.
  •  Olympus Academy in Canarsie is a transfer school for 16-21 year old under-credited students who need a small, supportive environment. This school may be just what you need.

Your future is in your hands, but these NYCID programs are here to help.

Let us know how you make out,
Nancy and Sid 

NYCID After-School at the Staten Island School of Civic Leadership


Who can attend?
If your children, from 6-13 years old, attend the Staten Island School of Civic Leadership and attend kindergarten to eighth grade, they are welcome to enroll in the after-school program.


Our after school program operates Monday through Friday from 2:25 – 6 PM following the Dept. of Education calendar.
  • Snack is provided by the Office of School Food every day
  • Homework hour follows immediately. All staff members are available for homework assistance. This is not one-to-one tutoring. The children will complete as much as possible at the end of the hour. Any remaining homework should be completed at home.
  • After homework students will participate in activities like sports/recreation, game room, and arts and crafts.
  • On Fridays we provide the children a break from homework and allow them to watch a movie in the auditorium.

Benefits of program participation

·    You know that this program provides a safe, healthy, and stimulating place for your children and youth.
·    The after-school program promotes the social, emotional, and physical development of your children and youth through a variety of activities, usually of their choice.

·        Research shows that after-school programs can enhance academic achievement. Participants show increased interest and ability  in reading, develop new skills and interests, improve school attendance, increase engagement in school and turn in more and better quality homework and spend more time on task.

Information and Orientation

After-school staff is available at the school orientation that takes place at the end of August as well as at every scheduled PTA meeting throughout the school year. Open enrollment allows parents the ability to meet with staff for an overview and orientation as family circumstances change.

Robert Busan
rbusan@nycid.org 
718-374-1658
Staten Island School of Civic Leadership
280 Regis Drive
Staten Island, NY 10314

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NYCID After Care at PS 30 on Staten Island

[after school program at PS 30]


Program Description
  • Elementary school children, ages 5-12, from PS 30
  • Mon-Fri from 2:20-6:00pm
  • Homework assistance from PS 30 after-school staff
  • Enrichment and recreational activities.
  • A low staff/student ratio (1:10) provides better supervision and an opportunity for each child to form relationships with our professional staff members.
Student can also attend our After-School Activities Program which can include programs like: Dance, Team Sports, Newspaper Club, Theater, Legos, Basketball, Fencing, Art through Literacy, Cheerleading, Martial Arts, and ELA/Math Prep.  Students enrolled in our After-Care program receive a discount when enrolling in the Activities Program.


Recruitment and enrollment process and schedule


  • After-Care enrollment is ongoing.  
  • Activities run 3 sessions of 10 weeks.
  • Request an information package about activities and registration


For additional information contact: 
Ivy Bilotti, After-School Child-Care Director
646-457-5438
ivybilotti@yahoo.com
NY Center After-School Program @ PS 30


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Tuesday, September 04, 2012

Summer Fun at SISCL

For the third year in a row, campers spent a wonderful summer at our summer camp at the S.I. School of Civic Leadership (P.S. 861) that incorporates programming built on The 7 Habits of Happy Kids.


Take a look at the pictures below that ran in the Staten Island AdvanceWouldn't you like to be a kid again and attend next summer?


Inside out photos 8-10-2012
Staten Island Advance
Friday, August 10, 2012 9:58 AM
SUMMER CAMP FUN: Summer campers at the New York Center for Interpersonal Development at the Staten Island School of Civic Leadership, a state-of-the-art, air-conditioned facility in Graniteville, engage in arts and crafts.

Inside out photos 8-10-2012
Staten Island Advance Friday, August 10, 2012 9:58 AM
MAGICAL DAY: A magician entertains campers at the New York Center for Interpersonal Development at the Staten Island School of Civic Leadership, Graniteville.

Inside out photos 8-10-2012
Staten Island AdvanceFriday, August 10, 2012 9:58 AM
SPRINKLER TIME: Campers enjoy some outdoor fun time in the sprinklers at the New York Center for Interpersonal Development at the Staten Island School of Civic Leadership in Graniteville.

Wednesday, August 29, 2012

ACE Program Participants 'Suit Up and Succeed'



Published: Thursday, August 16, 2012, 11:08 AM
By Timothy Harrison/Staten Island Advance 
suitup.jpgAngela D'Aiuto, executive director of the West Brighton Community Local Development Corporation, welcomes borough business owners and seven unemployed young adults to a Stapleton church for "Suit Up and Succeed."
STATEN ISLAND, N.Y. -- “I don’t believe clothes make the man; I believe the man makes himself. But the clothes give the man the image, so I just like to look presentable to make sure my first impression is the best impression.”
That’s according to Christopher Sesay of Clifton, a 24-year-old aspiring entrepreneur, who was a beneficiary of Wednesday’s “Suit Up and Succeed.” Seven unemployed young adults received gently used or new business attire in the charitable program at a Stapleton church.
The concept was brought to Staten Island by Angela D’Aiuto, executive director of the West Brighton Community Local Development Corporation (LDC), who noted “high unemployment among young people, as well as adults,” in the borough.
Ms. D’Aiuto partnered with local businesses, including Victory State Bank, which held a two-month-long suit drive, and business owners, who donated other clothes, as well as the New York Center for Interpersonal Development’s Achievement in Career Education (ACE) program.
The ACE program provides business training and experience to 30 young adults, aged 16 to 24, in three annual 14-week cycles. The seven young adults who attended Wednesday were all enrolled in ACE.
Amy Lavelle, ACE’s business liaison, explained the program, which couples three weeks of skill-building workshops with an 11-week internship or entry-level job.
“After the 14 weeks are over, as long as [participants] complete the required amount of hours, then they get help from us to find either full-time employment, part-time employment, enroll in school or enlist in the military,” Ms. Lavelle added. 
ASPIRING ENTREPRENEUR 
Sesay, the aspiring entrepreneur, recently finished ACE’s skill-building workshops as part of the 14-week program and will start a paid internship Monday with Ms. D’Aiuto at the West Brighton LDC.
“I see myself giving back to the community. I want to help people in the community and help kids,” Sesay, who has been unemployed for two months, commented.
A graduate of Concord High School, Sesay enrolled in college for a semester but was forced to drop out, a result of financial constraints.
Sesay said he hopes one day to own his own business and his own property, but, he said, “I still need training and I still need guidance, and I hope to find that within the program.”
Sesay and his six classmates, four men and three women in total, had plenty to learn from the three business owners who volunteered as “personal shoppers” Wednesday afternoon.
One, Claire Guadagno, the owner of Handpicked Creations, a vintage resale shop in New Dorp, provided West Brighton LDC with its first major donation of business clothes.
“I’m very into helping women, empowering women,” Ms. Guadagno said. “I’m a single mother, who four years ago was waitressing, and now I’m ready to buy my second business.”
She added, “You have to believe in yourself, and you have to get around positive people.”
Ms. Guadagno was responsible for enlisting the support of Tottenville resident Carmela Schiano, a life coach who owns Live Free Coaching. The two of them will work together to open Total Drama, a new performing arts studio in New Dorp, later this year.
“I work especially with young girls without moms,” Ms. Schiano said.
A third local business owner, Irena Popilevsky of New Dorp, who owns Real Estate SINY, agreed to bring coffee and doughnuts after she was told of the event Wednesday.
All three women gave fashion tips and style advice to the underprivileged young adults. 
NEW SUIT 
Helena Simmons of New Brighton left the United Church of Praise on Sands Street with a new khaki suit that she said she would use at her internship with Neighborhood Housing Services of Staten Island, where she was recently hired.
“I’m actually really excited about the whole thing,” she said. “I’m trying to build up my independence and be an entrepreneur, so I’m trying to open up my own business.”
Ms. Simmons said she would use skills acquired in the ACE program and attempt to learn new skills in advertising and marketing when she starts Monday.
“Depending on how well I do in my internship, there’s a possibility for me to be hired permanently.”
The giveaway was hosted at the United Church of Praise International Ministries Church, where Senior Pastor Thomas Oliver Cletus, another appropriate model for the seven young adults, played host.
Cletus reported this was the first time his church had partnered with the West Brighton LDC to donate clothing, but said, “Our church has clothing that we normally give out to people of low income.
“As I go around the community I find out that people are no longer having a job,” he said. “They try to look for another job. Sometimes they don’t have money to buy nice clothes or shoes or a tie to go for an interview.”
The pastor, a native of Liberia, came to the United States in 2001 by way of Nigeria.
“When I got here to America, after six months, I was able to own a car, which is something I never dreamed in my life that was going to be possible,” he said.

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Career and education program
At the United Church of International Praise, Stapleton,
are from left, Deacon Sando S. Roberts, assisting Aaron Taylor,
a participant
in NYCID's Achievement in Career & Education
(ACE) program. 
Taylor was at the church participating
in "Suit Up and Succeed," 
an initiative sponsored by
the West Brighton Community LDC (WBCLDC), 
Victory State Bank
and United Church of International Praise Ministries.
It aims to provide proper business attire, support and resources
to Staten Island's unemployed and young adults.
Roberts was pleased to show Taylor the correct way to knot a tie.